Unless a nation's life faces peril, war is murder.''*“Victory is for those who can say "Victory is mine". Success is for those who can begin saying "I will succeed" and say "I have succeeded" in the end.
Until you acknowledge and value yourself. People will for life take you for granted. Yes, nobody can/will dare to look down on you until you first look down on your own self. So, if you've lost your own self esteem i.e. your worth/ability, do endeavour to find/recover it and stand up for it as well anywhere/anytime.
Virginity is now a mere preamble or waiting room to be got out of as soon as possible; it is without significance. Old age is similarly a waiting room, where you go after life's over and wait for cancer or a stroke. The years before and after the menstrual years are vestigial: the only meaningful condition left to women is that of fruitfulness.