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And then now, here comes the science: Is there anything that science can tell us to get [the child] to be a really better listener and controlled better by [the parent's] behavior? and the answer is wildly 'yes.'.
– Alan Kazdin
Well, what does the research show? That no fault of anybody but the stress changed the [parent's] tone of voice, it's not about blaming, but I'm saying we put defiance in the child.
The real choice is not anywhere near as important in life as the perception of choice, and so it doesn't matter that the child doesn't have a real choice, what matters is that in giving that [choice], you increase compliance.
The issue is, you have to build the behavior gradually, that's the critical part. ... Practice, repeat it, practice.
The problem with 'defiance' is that it puts something in the child.
The tone of voice is the issue, not the 'please,'.
Sally, put on your green jacket or your blue sweater, please.
It's the strategic praise that changes behavior when used in a way that follows [the] behavior immediately.
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