Eat without the TV going on. Learn to appreciate food with only the entertainment of conversation—yours and someone else’s. Start a conversation with someone with whom you have “nothing in common” and no possibility of scoring with, networking with, or even seeing again. In other words, a conversation just for the civilized hell of it. Learn the absolute pleasure of kindness. Tell someone who may be in an excellent position to get even with you, to “go fuck himself.” The satisfaction will do you more good than the anxiety. Have hot, wild sex with a friend. Then go out and do something stupid, like bowl, afterwards. Get out of your house in the middle of a rainstorm, get soaked in it, and then strip down—to nothing but a smile. Stay up and listen to lightening. If there is no lightening around, stay up and listen to nothing. Just listen to the sheer joy of your thoughts transversing from one corner of your brain to the next Hold the door for an old man. Old ladies can take care of themselves; they’ve been doing it long enough. Realize that the banality around us that passes as “hipness” or “mass culture” is as satisfying as “mass food”—only it comes in much more unappetizing portions. Try to dwell on the people you’d like to love, instead of all the people you do loathe. Take up something that you know will never bring you any returns except pleasure—in other words, allow yourself to live the way brilliant eighteenth century courtesans lived. Don’t be afraid of having a decorative life, even if all the decorations come from you. Learn to revel in the unalloyed loveliness of receiving attention—to do this, you may have to leave your computer keyboard and invite it. To extend oneself does not necessarily mean to have an erection. The Egyptians had a particularly nasty way of getting rid of people they felt had no consequence. Instead of embalming them, they simply constructed a fake mummy made from old strips of linen wrapped around a dummy of mud. If, in our modern world, you feel that there are a lot of “mud mummies” around you, get rid of the mud. Learn to detest things that do not allow you to be yourself, and embrace things that make that self larger, more thrilling, and voluptuous. Clothes do not make the man; friends and engagement with life do. Instead of clutching photos of departed friends, keep their kisses close to you. You will be surprised how easy they are to pack. Be reckless in your intensities. Don’t waste your love on stupid people. Anyone stupid enough to deny or reject it—in the midst of the Love Depression we’re in—does not deserve it. Realize the complicated specialness of what we call the “inferiority complex.” In other words, what, Miss Thing, is so damn special about you to make you feel so specially inferior to any other jerk? Remember that that “rude awakening” which your parents and well-meaning relatives threatened you with as a kid is better than no awakening at all. Sports (and the often barely withheld violence around them) have become one of the few modern ways to connect with strangers. They give an amazing number of geeks things to talk about. In the old days we settled for, “Hello, how are you?” Although some fools find rudeness sexy, it is never the path to seduction. The most beautiful man in the world says everything with his eyes, and the rest with his hands and mouth. Wanting someone so much that his very presence takes your breath away is one of the most thrilling happenings in life. Not getting him in no way diminishes this. War was invented was to allow men who never grew up to do the things they always wanted to do as kids: mess up their rooms, wear funny clothes, sleep in a room with a lot of strangers, dirty up other people’s houses and then take their toys away. There are certain restaurants where you should photograph the food rather than eat it. These are great places to bring a narcissistic boyfriend before you break up. The most wonderful revenge you can have is by dumping an attractive, vacant man for an uglier one. That way all of his friends can scratch their heads, and for the next year or so wonder why. The same people who believe that all-powerful modern truism that “Image is Everything,” also believe everything they read in Vanity Fair. There are two things in life that money cannot buy: health and happiness. Aside from that, it does an excellent job. The most amazing thing about young men is how invisible they were to you when you were young. It is also the most poignant. We think of death and loss as tragic twins, but in fact it is loss that hurts us. Fashion is the art of making the unimportant indispensable. Retailing is the art of selling something that is not necessary to people who are. Anyone who does not understand this sooner, rather than later, goes out of business. Perhaps success should not mean that you have nothing to say to anyone, no time for anybody, and not a moment left in your calendar for someone whom you might suddenly realize you love. I prefer the “tackiest” person in the world to the stylish person who has no tact. The god that you dispense with today, will come back as a demon tomorrow. One of the problems with technology is that no photograph, as superb and outstanding as it may be, will ever be as satisfying as the most middle-rate painting. Although computers allow people to talk at the speed of light, no one talks that fast. Ageism is the racism of the gay world. We really believe that age—and all of our fears that it carries—will “rub off” on us, the way that racists once believed blackness would. Oscar Wilde said that the gods punish us in two ways: first, they don’t give us what we want, then, they do. He forgot the third way: we finally see the cost of getting it. Gays feel about popularity the same way teenage girls do. Is it that we really want friends we can count on, or do we just want guys around us whom we can share our curlers with? There may be a point in your life in which you are drowning so fast and fighting it so furiously that you don’t have the strength left to call out for help. At that point don’t expect one of your friends to jump into the water, if you’ve spent most of your life instructing them to mind their own business. The lowest form of barbarism is smugly to berate someone for extending an act of kindness. Falling in love with another man is like falling into a vast vat of yourself. For some men this is ultimately nourishing, for others . . . it is drowning. Still water does not only run deep. It runs dangerously. If you’ve been taught to keep every part of you to yourself, don’t expect people to come knocking on your door to run their hands over the choice parts—either for your pleasure or theirs. Three great ways to lose a lover: Talk to him the way your mother talked to your father. Berate him in public because everybody loves an audience. Contrast him to your friends, and compare him with his predecessors. Most kids are never told about one of life’s most effective weapons: when to get pissed as hell. Show it. And then mean it. Contrary to a great number of priests and other godly types, queer does not mean castrated.
Everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedom -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
Everything can be taken from a man but the last of human freedoms, the right to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances--the right to choose one's own way.
Faith is of paramount importance. As a matter of fact, it takes faith to persevere all through hardtimes, trials and challenges. Moreover, it takes faith to believe that what the future or tomorrow holds in stock is far much greater than whatever the past or yesterday has already offered i.e. it takes faith to acknowledge and believe it is possible that the best or the greatest of good old days or yester years is probable to become the worst or the least of what is yet to come i.e. what is ahead of you. Besides, it takes faith to leap and reap God's promises, healing, health, breakthrough and even salvation of human soul. Yes! it is written in (John 11 : 40) "if only you would believe, you shall see or receive the glory of God". Permit me to tell you that the importance of faith is synonymous with importance of love and money. Oh! yes, love is also of paramount importance. No wonder the scripture says in (1st Corianthians 13 : 2) It says, "whoever that do not love is "NOTHING" .i.e. irrespective of your social status, qualification and affluence. For the fact you don't love all and sundry, you are "WORTHLESS" in God's sight. Come to think of money, the scripture says in (Ecclesiastes 10 : 19) it says, "money answers all things and not at all some things". Obviously that infers, as long as you are still living you can't do without money. Moreover, with regards to faith itself which is the subject matter, the scripture says in (Hebrews 10 : 38) it says, "the just shall live by faith, but if anyone draws back my soul will have no pleasure in him" i.e. the person in question. Likewise, the scripture says in (Hebrews 11 : 6) it says, "without faith it is impossible to please God". Now, all of the above indicates, it takes nothing else to please God almighty except faith. Besides, all of the above illustrations evidently signifies, faith is truly of paramount importance. So, if you've been faithless all these while. Hence forth, reawaken your senses and then become and remain faithful no matter what happens. I mean, admit the importance of faith, imbibe it (faith) as your attitude, profess it convincingly and undoubtedly too. As well, live with/by it on daily basis. For, that's just expected of you.
Fear is a question What are you afraid of, and why Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, your fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if you explore them.
Fear is a question: What are you afraid of, and why? Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, your fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if you explore them.
Five daily newspapers arrive in my California driveway. The New York times and the Wall Street Journal are supplemented by three local papers. As for magazines, I read, or at least skim, Business Week, Forbes, The Economist, INC; Industry Week, Fortune. Other subscriptions include Sales and Marketing Management, Modern Health Care, Progressive Grocer, High Tech Business, and Slaon Management Review from MIT. I religiously read Business Tokyo, Asia Week, and Far Eastern Economic Review. I glance at Newsweek and Time ... but I devour the New Republic, Policy Review, Foreign Affairs, The Washington Monthly, and Public Interest. How about books? A dozen or more each month.
For health and the constant enjoyment of life, give me a keen and ever-present sense of humor it is the next best thing to an abiding faith in providence.
For the first year of marriage I had basically a bad attitude. I tended to place my wife underneath a pedestal
Happiness is an attitude of mind, born of the simple determination to be happy under all outward circumstances.
Happiness is heart-warming/healthful i.e. happiness is emotionally rewarding/uplifting and good for your health. Moreover, the more happier you are, the more healthier you will be/remain. So, dare to be/remain happy always and never sad.
Happiness is meant to be an acquired taste i.e. happiness ought to be an attitude/lifestyle which you have to imbibe/portray over and over again. For, happiness is worth imbibing and portraying for life, unlike sadness which is ever uncalled for.
Happiness is meant to be an acquired taste i.e. happiness ought to be an attitude/lifestyle which you have to imbibe/portray over and over again. For, happiness is worth imbibing/portraying for life, unlike sadness which is ever uncalled for.
Hard Work is to Success like vaccinations are to good health, if timely done.... the result is always the latter!!!!