What is it about possessing things Why do we feel the need to own what we love, and why do we become jerks when we do We've all been there-- you want something, to possess it. By possessing something you lose it. You finally win the girl of your dreams, the first thing you do is change her. The little things she does with her hair, the way she wears her clothes or the way she chews her gum. Pretty soon what you like, what you changed, what you don't like, blends together like a watercolor in the rain.
What starts the process, really, are laughs and slights and snubs when you are a kid. ... If your anger is deep enough and strong enough, you learn that you can change those attitudes by excellence, personal gut performance.
Whatever we are today is the outcome of the choices we had made before. When we connect the dots, we realize how various events led to the results that we see today. If we do not like the outcome, we must change our choices. In my honest view, we create our own future with our own hands, and Destiny is surely not a matter of chance but of choices we make everyday. Good luck my friend, in making right choices.
Whatever you have or know doesn't/can't/won't make a difference or an impact until you use it to change/touch someone else's life/other people's lives positively. Yes, you've got to change or touch someone else's life/other people's lives with whatever you have/know no matter how small it seems to you.
When a man you like switches from what he said a year ago, or 4 years ago, he is a broad-minded person who has courage enough to change his mind with changing conditions. When a man you don't like does it, he is a liar who has broken his promises.
When I say I love Eastland, it sounds preposterous--a man who brutalizes people. But *you* love him or you wouldn't be here. You're going to Mississippi to create social change--and you love Eastland in your desire to create conditions which will redeem his children. Loving your enemy is manifest in putting your arms not around the man but around the social situation, to take power from those who misuse it--at which point they can become human too.
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.
When you're ready to make the change and you don't feel that you have the strength, know that you are connected with the same strength that moves the world; you just have to stop turning your back on it and connect with it."
Whether you want to be a Thermometer or a Thermostat is really up to you. You see, a Thermometer simply reflects the temperature of its environment, always quickly adjusting to the situation; while a Thermostat goes one step above and beyond to make a positve change in the temperature of its environment. You can always opt to "go with the flow" to follow what others and society norms dictate to you, or you can stand firm with your values to bring about a differentiating change in the world that would make it a better place than ever before. Be the Change Ambassador, and importantly, be the Change that you want to see in the world. In my view, one should strive to become a Thermostat rather than a Thermometer, because the world needs more Thermostats.
Whoever that doesn't want to be challenged in life is as well refusing to be changed. Because, challenges are agents of change. Yes of course, challenges are meant to change you for good and not at all for bad.
Why abandon a belief merely because it ceases to be true Cling to it long enough, and it will turn true again, for so it goes. Most of the change we think we see in life is due to truths being in and out of favor.
Why abandon a belief merely because it ceases to be true? Cling to it long enough and... it will turn true again, for so it goes. Most of the change we think we see in life is due to truths being in and out of favor.