Until you acknowledge and value yourself. People will for life take you for granted. Yes, nobody can/will dare to look down on you until you first look down on your own self. So, if you've lost your own self esteem i.e. your worth/ability, do endeavour to find/recover it and stand up for it as well anywhere/anytime.
Virginity is now a mere preamble or waiting room to be got out of as soon as possible; it is without significance. Old age is similarly a waiting room, where you go after life's over and wait for cancer or a stroke. The years before and after the menstrual years are vestigial: the only meaningful condition left to women is that of fruitfulness.
We all carry around so much pain in our hearts. Love and pain and beauty. They all seem to go together like one little tidy confusing package. It's a messy business, life. It's hard to figure--full of surprises. Some good. Some bad.
We all know that the life in real world is inherently risky. Those who are not willing to take the risks always settle for the ordinary, and the life also rewards them with what they settle for - the ordinary. On the other hand, those who take the risks, and jump off the cliffs, find that they build their wings on the way down. Life rewards these risk-takers and cliff-jumpers with Success that is beyond any measures - the extraordinary. That's why, in my view, the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one having best ideas or better abilities, but the courage one demonstrates by taking a risk to take a risk and win. History remembers these risk-takers and their extraordinary accomplishments, and forgets the squeamish non-achievers. Never be afraid to take the risks, and diving into unknown oceans. After all, pearls don't lie on the seashore, and you must dive for it into deep ocean if you want one. Go on, take a leap into uncertainty, and you'll see your wings opening on your way down. You may see a net appearing too, but you must take that leap first. Never settle for anything less. You won't regret, because only those who take risks win in this world. All the best!