RJ Intindola's Quotes

I’ve often traveled alone on the path of life’s journey. But always knew the bindings that bond people and families together were never further than a stone’s throw. Lightning struck and life vanished in a flash. And the beacon of hope and comfort has been extinguished forever. – Until another rises. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 4 – 13 – 21

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Courage can not exist in the absence of fear.

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The fiercest warriors, do not carry a sword to the battlefield; instead, they are armed with wisdom.

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The wise quickly dispense gossip, and the truth leads it to perish.

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We all enter a period of agony, when our heart is hungry and the only one who could feed it, never will.

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Plant the flower of love on fertile ground, and provide personal care; furnish water during a drought; offer substance so it will grow strong, and always prune the deadened branches to spring anew.

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She resembled a rainbow and the pot of gold; rarely observed and never discovered.

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The path ahead is wide open and you feel a sense of emptiness; in the moment, you realize your heart is empty and the one who can make it overflow with joy, never will.

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Not all who betray feel guilt and remorse. They often proclaim the betrayed deserved the punishment for past actions. A rationalization intended to ensnare the ignorant and offer warrant. Remember. The betrayer was either attempting to gain something for themselves, or to inflict pain upon you; or both.

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We all acquire two types of scars; one is visible for all to see and the other resides deep within us. Both possess pain but others can only determine if the external scars have healed. The emotional scars within are usually more painful and can linger for years.

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Relationships, like an exquisite garden do not thrive on granite. Find the valley where the bright foliage permeates the landscape; this is where you plant the flowers.

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One, should be mindful, the conflicts inside you are greater and more destructive than those involving others and the environment. The internal conflict, centers on decisions and choices; where confliction takes root. Should we push the button lite by the conscious or the one, others have chosen for us. If the heart is in the picture, run in that direction.

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You initiate conflict to seek and obtain attention; kindness and love will deliver more significant returns than one can hold.

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Most, gleefully delight in your descent. And, are displeased and mock your ascension

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The best teachers and professors I have known were named; Mistake, Fail, Blunder and then, Bloom; and the best of all, we called, Perseverance.

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Then, there is the secret life. There, alone and in our own realm; Here, we fantasize about sex, romance, and being wealthy. No one knows. Except, when we cross over and violate societal mores. We betray, experience relationships that would be scorned in the other two lives. And to the extent we deviate from the norms, the greater amount of time is expended for clandestine pursuits. And we stay here, because it’s addictive.

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No civil conversation can occur while you are holding an ax.

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One of the most significant management functions is control. Controls are usually directed by organization policies and procedures. They are based on the concept that people should have a thorough understanding of management expectations. And there should be consequences for noncompliance. Penalties for noncompliance are predicated upon the theory, that people will not behave if they have nothing to lose.

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You who must rely on others for their happiness, will perpetually be planted in a life of grief and sorrow.

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When you capture a woman’s soul prior to a sexual encounter, consider yourself extremely fortunate.

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You burn with the flames of desire for someone that doesn’t notice or pay attention. Your love affair has not even begun and the flames are now burning into your soul. You can douse the flames; you must first walk away. Only then can you be transformed.

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Why settle for what is provided instead of being motivated to achieve what you want. Complacency is your contentment.

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Imitate the oak trees, stripped naked by the dark winter frost; who recover in the spring to resemble a powerful towering statue of emerald; and relate to its origin, consisting of soil, clouds, and dead plants.

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Your entire heart has been scarred through the years; seek the healer who heightens the senses and helps you feel alive. There, you will find the medicine to mend the wounds and restore life.

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Your words and character travel different paths; you can deceive many, except the one who matters the most.

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Until the conscience has gained sufficient wisdom, desire resembles a raging wildfire.

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You have locked the chain around the heart that loves you; for the perpetual search for love remains hollow.

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You judge the mistakes of others with indignation and distain in a demeaning manner; your mistakes, are littered with rationalizations and excuses, with indignation for those aware. And void of regrets.

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Ward off the comforted path paved smooth to allow a glide. Rather challenge one’s instincts by traveling the primitive and unexplored. Then, will you grow.

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Hundreds of life lessons are communicated and absorbed with every broken heart. So, let it break.

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Never permit the flames of love and desire char you beyond recognition.

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But when, will the judges endeavor to complete an examination of themselves.

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You who use the eyes to find love are truly blind.

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Before death, the leaves display magnificent beauty, and then fall to the earth to serve a greater purpose.

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A hodgepodge of fantasies lies within you; some are sexual; live them.

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It is always improper to intentionally offend anyone; and if someone is offended by your actions or words, they are not necessarily right.

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One's most essential attributes cannot be defined by math, but instead, by opinion; and those that can be measured by a number, are less significant.

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The rationale for springing out our bed each morning is a sense of purpose. Purpose is the compass that guides us through the decision-making process and aids in the development of our behavior and actions. Lacking a sense of purpose is the equivalent of a feather thrown into a gusty wind.

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Stay in bed when absent a sense of purpose.

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When you are captive between what is real and what should be, attempt an escape to real; should be is a mirage that does not exist.

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Keep those close that bring joy and purpose and maintain distance from people who induce chaos and turmoil in your life.

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Those who seek shelter in the shadows, are free of criticism and controversy.

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Fate does not control who walks into your life, but it does have an impact on who you meet. Then, both determine the extent you will become a part of each other’s life.

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Remain grounded and entrenched for your end will be the feather that gets tossed and turned at the mercy of the wind.

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One who possesses arrogance as a dominant personality trait, rarely has close friends.

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On one’s life’s journey to obtain destiny they will encounter hundreds of closed doors; some are locked and there is no key. There are only two choices.

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The pursuit of happiness never ends.

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Those who yearned for years for love after betrayal, are afraid and cautious when they find it.

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Never leap into a lake without knowing what’s beneath the surface.

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Always be mindful, one has complete authority over psyche, words, and actions. Deliberative judgment of these three things, determine your station in life.

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Those who possess empathy provide others a gift no amount of wealth could ever purchase.

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No one will make an offer to purchase your failings; you must own them or dispose the flaws into the trash.

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I gave myself to her, but she sold me to fulfill her appetite for adventurous lust.

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Sometimes you’re the only one that can rescue yourself; for no one is coming to save you.

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When you linger in tormented darkness, remember, the dawning always arrives on time.

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The most successful relationships consist of compromises regarding expectations; all expectations are not equal, and therefore in each case one must judge the level of their individual desires.

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Everyone has wins and losses within the realm of love. However, sometimes a win becomes a loss, and most of the time, a loss becomes a win. But neither are ever absolute.

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Never allow yourself to become comfortable for that is when fear is guiding your decisions. Confronting fear can be exciting and exhilarating. Let others believe your mad. Only you require truth

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The road to freedom and liberty is always paved in blood.

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Our world is infested with resistance, from other people, the environment, but mostly from within ourselves.

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We search for our shrine so we can joyfully gaze upon it. Sadly, when we arrive at the solemn place, there is nothing to see.

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You should not first, give thanks for a pot of gold, but instead, because you’re healthy and others are not. Then give thanks for the food you eat because others are hungry. And then give thanks for the shelter you live within because others must sleep in the squalor of the alleys. And once you have given thanks for these necessities, seek out those without them and your soul will be at peace, and the pot of gold remains within your reach.

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Her soul returned often but the conscience was habitually absent. And together; dangerous.

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If we do not discipline ourselves, the environment and societal values will do it for us. Control from external forces flourishes when internal discipline from within grows weak.

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Even the highly intelligent and educated are not successful without discipline.

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Fate and destiny are not going to come looking for you. You are going to have to find or create it yourself.

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Love dies and is reborn many times during a lifetime.

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As one gains wisdom, you will realize that the number of friends is not important as the quality of them. The characteristics of quality friendship include trust, loyalty, respect, and time.

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Apathetic Ignorance When someone tells you something, you know is false and thus displays their ignorance; and you’re not in the frame of mind or mood to challenge them; so, you just say; really.

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Some people will enter your journey and alter a future destination. Deliberative decision-making is essential when changing course; either temporarily or permanently. Always maintain the focus on your vision.

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Anger evokes danger and usually endangers those under attack.

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We all have musts, needs, and wants in our lives, be they material or issue oriented; complete the musts as they are a necessity and forget the wants until the musts do not consume most of your time.

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Showing up is not enough and overrated; commitment and perseverance are essential.

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The greatest conflicts one encounters, emanates from within us.

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Never judge yourself through the eyes of another person. Your conscience will make your own judgments. Everyone at some point in our life, attempted to impress another person. We try to evaluate, what actions or mannerisms we can display that will impress them. And our evaluations are usually incorrect. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not.

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Truth typically arrives when it’s unexpected. Those carrying a lie live with anticipation the truth will eventually smack them in the face. There is no need gaze over the shoulder, as truth doesn’t hide or require a disguise.

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Some chase the scorching flame of love their entire lives without ever finding it; sustained romantic relationships have eluded them but their search continued. A friend once told me that he had never found true love. Had he searched instead for the rationale love had eluded him, then maybe the answers would have provided a clearer path toward a sustainable flame. He was selfish.

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Every innocent face has a wild and dark side hidden deep within them; as humans, we are curious to see it exposed because we are intrigued by the unknown.

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He held her hand because he wanted her heart; then gazed into her empty eyes and realized nothing was there. Often, the emotions of someone we love are dismissed in a continual effort to remain.

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Are we ever at peace in our lives? And if not, can we ever find it? So far, I’m still searching.

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Trust intuition and feel, not what you hear.

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Another Boring Love Story She was risky at best. She had a sordid past. She was complicated. She was wild. She had numerous demons. But she had a loving heart. But she had a soft smile. But her tears smelled like morning dew. But she was intelligent and worldly. But she intimidated men. So, I dove in headfirst without a second thought. And wow; she was a demon. The End

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Facts in Prose When someone we love no longer desires us. We become emotionally damaged. Were consumed with torment every day. Within long-term relationships the lack of desire is commonplace. Women lose desire for their partner sooner than men. When your partner avoids or rejects kissing, their love has passed. Collect your pieces and move on.

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Nothing in life worth having comes easy. That is unless you are rich.

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The pursuit of success is marked by numerous characteristics; including, perseverance, commitment, education, and wisdom, to name a few. The road to failure can also be described with countless personality traits, including, unreliable, indolence, ignorance, and ineptitude. However, during my thirty years as an administrator I have witnessed the most significant rationale for failure that cannot be described in a single word. It is a characteristic some people possess, often referred to by psychologists as the, need-to-be-liked-syndrome. Unfortunately, for some, their existence is predicated upon pleasing others, and seeking approval and recognition. They have become an inmate or prisoner to the thoughts and opinions of others. In other words, they lack self-value, and therefore must receive it from others. When you do not value yourself, then it will be difficult to obtain joy and contentment in one’s life. Remember; you have worth and value.

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If you have loved someone and then fell out of love with them, it is possible to fall back in love with them; but only if they were not the reason you fell out of love with them.

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Don’t seek peace and happiness with the same people and in the same place where you never found it.

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Longing for someone to touch, caress and meld into, is a strong human emotion of never-ending desire and want. When the desires do not exist in real life, we tend to live them through dreams and fantasies. We even resort to the extent of choosing a person we know and have feelings for to place a face on the illusion.

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If you are not going to fight for what you want, do not expect others to step in and battle for you.

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You can be in love and not be in a relationship.

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Do not be afraid to fail. Most do every day.

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If your character is strong, you will find a way to succeed and if it is weak, you’ll find an excuse to fail.

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The most precious possessions in life cannot be touched by human hands; foremost, is the fulfillment of inner peace.

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The most significant adversary of relationships and love is life which is wrought with conflicts.

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If you do not challenge yourself at every opportunity, then you will never be prepared when others do. Although rarely touted, preparation is the most significant criterion to obtain success.

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Approach everyone in a silent mysterious manner so they cannot easily define you. People are more attracted to the mysterious than the obvious.

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Everyone occasionally is haunted by the past and should consider; no amount of remorse will erase the past and no amount of apprehension will alter the future.

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Hanging on to the anguish, hurt, and pain of the past negates one’s movement into the future. Accept the torment you suffered as a lesson, then advance

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One can never force another to reveal passion they do not possess or feel with in the heart. We are erected from life experiences and the broken pieces that could be salvaged.

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We must never permit anyone with limited knowledge of us to define who we are. It is best to disassociate from their existence.

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Each day I rise with a hollow heart and gaze across the bed and wonder where you are and who you are with. I still love you but learned to live in peace.

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The most difficult obstacles and impairments on one’s path, are not physical; they are other humans.

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If something or someone makes you happy and brings joy to your life, it does not have to make sense to anyone else.

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Only fear and the unknown prohibit one from following their dreams.

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Never reveal your dark moments to anyone, for what people do not know cannot be utilized to destroy you. By nature, people are envious and jealous; and will attempt to bring you down. Silence reveals nothing.

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Uncertainty is the equivalent of a predator waiting in the shadows and pounces upon us when least expected. Frequently, we are aware of pending uncertainty, such as, waiting for the results; of a test, a pending loan application, a promotion or potential employment, and the fact uncertainty will be present for our entire life.

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In college the professor gives you an assignment, you study and are given a test to determine what you have learned. In life, you are first tested and then you learn.

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Determination, knowledge, and wisdom work in collaboration; determination dominates, for without persistence, knowledge and wisdom never attain their full potential.

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We all gaze back into our past, to recall fond memories; the mistakes and errors we made, so we shall not repeat them in the present or the future.

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Quality leadership always contains a vision for the organization that displays the transition from the present into the future. The transition shall include plans of action and goals to reach the vision.

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As humans, it is likely we shall periodically deviate from virtue as temptation continually lurks in the shadows and taunts us to succumb. Most digressions are minor and do not disrupt our lives unless we decide to live two of them.

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Deficient discipline can impede every other asset one may possess, including education, intelligence, and experience.

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The most significant aspect of any long-term sustained relationship is trust; not even love is stronger; hence, you can still love someone without trust because of history, attachment, and family. But the type of love has changed.

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On one’s path through life, it shall be nearly impossible to find and acquire complete virtue. Aristotle listed his twelve virtues and other philosophers have noted even more personality traits to describe the virtuous. But one, morality jumps off the page which within itself is defined distinctively different between various religious, social value systems and nationalities. Morality is defined by our conscience, not the dictionary.

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You do not have to tear down the old or what currently exists to create change. Not everyone may be interested in the change you are contemplating. My grandmother would have never given up her manual can opener.

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As an administrator, once an applicant met the minimum requirements, such as, education and experience; the attributes I sought the most included determination, persistence, and the unwavering pursuit to succeed. However, those personality traits were difficult to assess without a complex selection process.

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Our words change dependent upon the circumstances and to whom we are engaging. One’s tone is soft addressing a child; professional interacting with a colleague; and deliberative within an atmosphere of debate.

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Purpose necessitates one has a vision into their future. Without purpose and vision, your life will resemble a windmill without wind. Devoid of wind, the windmill cannot do its job and has ceased to function.

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The weak and feeble-minded are drawn to the evil strongman as it provides them a sense of power they could not otherwise achieve.

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Those who betray an oath of loyalty and commitment are in training to become a master of deceit and deception.

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Our destiny is solely determined by how we create ourselves. The only exception is when someone is born into wealth.

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One’s enemies transmit your story in a distorted form; for they are wrought with envy, jealousy, and hatred. Their aim is to reduce your power and the level of presence.

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People with dirty minds make better lovers.

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Sometimes we anticipate conditions before they become real and we create our own heartbreaks.

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Sometimes you’re the only one that can save yourself; for no one is coming to save you.

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The ultimate courage is fighting a battle one knows they will lose; but they confront the adversary, to prevent them from winning.

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The conscience has a long memory as does the person you inflicted pain upon to create the memory in the first place.

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Even the most confident maintain an edge of doubt and fear; for they are the engines that remind us that confidence is a necessity for success.

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I could hear the cracking of my gutted heart. And falling pieces exploding into shards. My senses became numb. Emotion drained from my body. And the damage would take years to repair.

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If you are constantly in pain; seek out love; you will find the pain has been cut in half.

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Never reveal your wounds. They will all believe your weaker. They will take advantage of you. When they see how scarred you are. Then you will have no choice. But to fight. And then they will feel the wrath of a warrior.

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While there is no definitive formula for success and winning, there exists a deliberative mindset, confidence and emotional strength. For one must believe they are a champion before they can become one.

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There’s a distinct difference between confidence and boasting arrogance; when a problem hits a patch of difficult, the arrogant disappear but the confident remains in the fight.

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The humble rarely brag about accomplishments because they are typically significant, and their mannerism is one of confidence; but those with low self-esteem have developed a character of conceit and deception. You’re thinking of one now.

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The ignorant and blind must always be guided or led; the blind have no choice but the ignorant who are content with their deficient knowledge, eventually become blind.

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A single thought of her reminds me what it's like to feel alive and once again to have deep meaning in my life; A simple vision of her smile makes me feel special.

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There’s nothing more arduous than traversing a lifelong struggle with the betrayal of the person you love, who expects to reach a compromise. Negotiation under these circumstances requires one to forfeit their dignity which can never be salvaged.

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One who habitually jumps to conclusions to impress others with their knowledge, is offering opinions without reasoned judgment and wisdom.

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As we grow older our sense of compassion becomes refined and matures; for we’ve received compassion for a lifetime of mistakes and mishaps.

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Most psychologists agree at least some of our analytical ability is innate; however, most also agree common sense is not innate but derived from learned experiences; since common sense which I refer to as reasoned judgment requires analysis, then reasoned judgment must be partly innate.

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The number of paths and roads to one’s planned destination are innumerable but distinct from one another; some take longer and create an arduous journey. All missions require a plan.

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I am eternally grateful to those friends and others who gave me more than I could give to them. Memories of them are etched in my heart and will remain there forever.

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When one evaluates the best possible choice, we need to assess how the decision will affect others, including family, associates in the workplace and friends. Sometimes others outweigh the value of a choice that benefits our self-interest the most.

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Confidence is a whisper, decisiveness is a calm tone, arrogance is a scream, and aggression is a bloody nose; one’s demeanor describes the scene.

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If you do not have knowledge or experience of what’s in the box, then you can’t think out-of-the-box; one cannot consider an alteration or alternative without knowledge of the subject or profession.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The environment around us is constantly changing, including innovations, friends, employment and moving to a different location; those who accept and excel at adaptation have smoother transitions, while others struggle.

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For the most part, we are the determinate factor for the consequences of our life. The belief others should add importance and statute to our life is infantile and a sign of weakness. The strong create meaning and purpose for themselves.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One changes their beliefs numerous times over the course of a lifetime; even those they defended and supported for years.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Your conscience is the final arbiter of whether you have been right or wrong.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One should accept who they are or make changes to meet their expectations, instead of trying to be what they are not.

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When you first loved and the feeling was returned, you thought it would last forever; but it ended and you acquired knowledge of one of life’s significant lessons; the next time you loved, you did so with caution. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 2001

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Physical and health adversity is the most difficult type as pain and torment is continuous without an anticipated endpoint; all other types can have an eventual resolution but the ill, endure the mental stress every day.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

In order to a have purpose in life, one must first discover reasons to live; once discovered, life shall have a definitive purpose.

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Many have cried a thousand nights of bitter anguish without tears. And the tormented betrayal soars at twilight.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Adversity presents itself in various forms from mild to the intensive extreme. Therefore, each form necessitates a different approach that matches or exceeds the intensity in the moment.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We grow older more quickly by not chasing our passionate desires; passion helps one to feel alive.

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Everyone must learn to live and survive alone, because at some point you will be; we grow stronger without relying on others to subsist.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Life and those who rear us teach lessons that break us. How we reassemble the broken pieces defines what we become.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Love is like a boxing match; at the start everyone’s looking and feeling good; halfway through, there are swollen faces and bruises; at the end both sides require stitches.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

You can fight and lose but if you do nothing you've already lost.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Those in love with someone who does not treat them special has endured countless hours of sorrow and despair.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Tears are silent sorrow, screaming for comfort.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

I’d rather be hated by standing for what’s right than enduring mental anguish for remaining silent; by remaining silent there is no confrontation nor truth and peace prevails.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When evaluating someone’s actions or temperament, always examine motive for it is the essence of what and who they are. One’s actions are in direct correlation with the conscience.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Only under an illusion and psychotic beliefs do the people forfeit their freedoms and liberties.

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When evil assembles into a group, good must duplicate their efforts; for without an equal counter force of protection, evil shall destroy those who stand alone, one at a time.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When one completes complex or difficult tasks and assignments without anguish or physical trauma, they’ve evolved to the top floor and must look down to view people.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Life is continuing education where you are tested every day and where final exams are actually never final; and what you’ve learned last year has been updated and requires relearning.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Anger and aggressive behavior create a combative environment and temporarily reduces one’s ability to utilize their intellectual capacity.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The populace becomes shattered when laws are created or altered to trample rights and freedoms; hope is lost, and aspirations quelled; the state shall become the enemy and the people have no choice; conflict advances slow on a darkened horizon.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The beginning is constantly available, but you must start in order to begin.

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Those in the dawn of life require nurturing from others; their personality traits and behaviors are formed during this period and they learn more from example and observation than words; reveal, kindness, truth, respect, and empathy for others.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Those who become drunk with power and have enriched themselves unlawfully while serving, will continue the same path, while they remain in power.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Commitment when confronted by conflict, produces character. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 1980

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In a democracy, where electors grant license to elected representatives to violate the oath of office; and continually reelect them, freedoms and liberties progressively erode for all.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Major societal and individual enhancements are only achievable with extraordinary alteration of the thought process.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

A truth can exist for decades and in a moment vanish. Just ask Pluto.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The most gut-wrenching experience anyone will endure is knowing you’ve been used and lied to by someone you trusted.”

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The general consensus is that we gain wisdom and learn from our failures and mistakes; however, many do not accept the rationale of their errors and thus continually repeat them; therefore, when we do not acknowledge our missteps ignorance prevails.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Accomplished leaders in a democracy never diverge from the rule of law, foundational values and traditions.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Sometimes, one must travel the most difficult path alone; only then can they endure the more challenging journeys in the future.”

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Societal mores, religious beliefs and more importantly, traditions and habits impede the diffusion of innovations; alterations of behavioral patterns and practices require change, many adamantly oppose.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Those who stand idle while evil descends upon another and provides no support, is just as culpable as the perpetrator.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

If you must change to garner the love of another, their love was never for you, but another.

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One’s virtue cannot always be trusted; for some, use their righteousness for self-righteous purposes.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Don’t permit your existence to be the sole reason people in need approach.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Love can play destructive games; one day overwhelming you with joy and euphoria and the next, destroying your life.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The most significant attribute and personality trait someone can possess is constant renewal; the continual process of renewing our wisdom in our personal life and in the workplace. This quote is an excerpt from the speech I gave the Broward County, City and County Managers Association in 1994. The theme of the presentation was how to identify higher-quality applicants and employees currently working in the organization. The concept is simple; some constantly learn what’s new and keep up to date on innovations and technology, while most only learn and are diffused by the renewal group.

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We are constructed from the mistakes, pain and heartaches we’ve encountered; some crumble in mental anguish, others adapt, and a few rebuild the broken pieces and are the strongest among us.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When one’s deportment has mistreated and harmed you, disappearing from their life does not require an explanation; they already know the reason for your absence.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Evaluate one’s tone, demeanor and words and you shall know their character.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One can best be judged by the life they live rather than the words they speak. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 1999

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Those who obtain an eminent position, shall acquire critics, resentment, wrath and isolation; choose your friends for who they are, instead of who you are.

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When one doubts accomplishment is impossible then death occurs before birth.

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In a democracy, when freedoms are threatened; tyranny must stare down the barrel aimed at the revolutionary rebellion.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When in love with someone, they must be your priority and paramount concern in life; and there should always be reciprocation; any other scenario creates a relationship molded with anxiety.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

You are braver and more courageous than you realize; but fail to act or speak out, for fear of displeasing others; the anguish one lives for not acting instinctively, hurts more than if you acted.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The most significant aspect of any long term sustained relationship is trust; not even love is stronger; hence, you can love someone without trust.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Our character is not defined by the struggles and conflicts we traverse in life, nor by wins and losses; but instead, by the battles we dare to fight.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Great love stories are created by two people who are bonded through deep love. A love so intense, your palms become moist and your heart flutters when you think of them.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

A true friend should be able to speak truth to your face, but in your absence, serve as the ultimate defender.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Listening will never get anyone in trouble but opening their mouth will.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Every challenge is a chance to succeed.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Deep into the night, people I’ve known descend around me and deliver whispering reminders of moments abandoned.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We rarely climb to the highest level of our expectations, because the ascension is limited by wisdom and knowledge.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Social and safety net programs are the most difficult of all public service activities to calculate proper funding; governments fund these programs to temporarily alleviate a problem; a more appropriate funding rationale would be to eradicate the circumstances creating the problem.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Confrontational forms of discussion never conclude without damage to both parties, especially if they are aggressive in nature.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

A skeptic can be evaluated through their approach when they doubt an issue; at one end of the spectrum resides the person who always seeks the truth and enjoys investigative research; at the other end, is the naysayer and contrarian, always poised for an argumentative debate.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We mistakenly equate flattery to friendship and criticism to opposition; one should evaluate truth first and then judge, for flattery and criticism are primarily opinion.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Lust hidden under the cloak of the secretly forbidden, is explosive and addictive.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The highly inspired, encounter less obstacles and traverse mountains easier than others on their path through life.” It seems to me that inspiration theoretically enhances one’s ability traversing difficulties as they move toward a goal. The highly inspired, encounter less obstacles and traverse mountains easier than others on their path through life. They appear to view roadblocks and detours as normal life events and in many cases move through them unscathed and undeterred. While the obstacles exist as they would for anyone else, they don’t view them in the same manner.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Even the wisest among us do not possess complete knowledge of every subject; however, they acquire a deep understanding regarding the limits of their knowledge. Acknowledge, the extent of your knowledge.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We should always be braced to defend justice against injustice at all costs. For once injustice becomes tolerable, then our liberties shall be dismantled.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Some will never admire or respect you; not because they believe you’re callous or possess an intense demeanor, instead, they’re intimidated of what you’re becoming; powerful, and thus, envy flows within them.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Life is simply a long journey of problem-solving and conflict resolution.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

A hollow heart is often found within the most beautiful creatures. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 1983

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Only you can decide how people describe your personal story after you’ve passed.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The masses will fight to preserve their liberties and freedoms, save for those who have fallen under a spell of delusion by the demagogue.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Certain characteristics must exist for a democracy to survive. First, laws must be constructed in fairness and equality; and second, obedience of law by the citizens, and those who judge and enforce them; without strict adherence to these principles, democracies fail.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When morality erodes, liberty first diminishes; then departs.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When one cannot depart from the present or the past, the future shall be beyond their reach; they meander a path inattentive and without destination.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One should always consider when taking action, not only the joy and pleasure that follows, but also the anguish and length of discomfort; especially when the anguish affects another party.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Long standing rules, mores, morals, and religious values remain even when the majority have internally altered and abandoned them.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Society has an inherent right to constantly question justice and to compel adherence to founding institutions; when justice conflicts with traditional institutional values, the populace must rebel.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Those having no conscious of guilt after the imposition of cruelty and brutality, have no claim to the biblical gospels as set forth in Christianity; for they ordain the necessity, to cloth, feed, and shelter the despondent.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

At birth we are provided seeds to sow, but the amount and quality are not equal; the wealthy acquire high quality and limitless amounts, while the poor received the opposite; therefore, the impoverished cannot error while the affluent can dispose handfuls in the wind. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 1995

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The cult is fueled by fear and hate and adheres to contrived theories to perpetuate its existence and creates a venomous environment; nonbelievers are rejected, scorned and attacked; truth has vanished.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The human tendency is to resemble or imitate those we admire; the common result is the delusion, that to emulate another’s personality creates a pseudo persona, measurably dissimilar from our own.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Fiery passion and intimacy are never sustained without deep love; love that makes your skin tingle when you smell her hair.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The expense of energy on what you cannot control, heightens stress, tension and diverts one’s efforts away from what can be controlled.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

It’s an accepted principle that we adopt many characteristics of close friends and associates; these traits include interests, opinions, political affiliations, morals, and responses to various events and activities; one should constantly evaluate and be vigilant of those they interact with the most.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Our lives at every turn are fraught with uncertainty and the unknown. One’s approach and demeanor when uncharted waters appear greatly affects success in life; you control the wheel.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When in disagreement, do not employ a vulgar, defaming or callow response; in the absence of logic, respond in a refined manner; word choice and tone always matter.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Even the most ignorant fool can teach us something about life; particularly in temperament and manner.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Any response or action containing anger always has negative consequences, even when in the right.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The cult thrives on maintaining strict harmonious beliefs in attitude, opinions and behavior; discord and dissonance are adverted at all costs to maintain a false dogma; truth propels the group deeper into pseudo-beliefs and truth-telling is defamed; the result – cognitive dissonance.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Never imitate or repeat the actions of others that maimed or humiliated you; learn from these moments so as not to invoke same on others.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Unlike a precious diamond whose form, luster and beauty never change over decades, relationships are altered by the evolution of traversing life.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One chooses who they decide to love but never determines who will love them back. The woman’s first two considerations are respect and financial security which centers on the core of personality traits; a man reveres persona of physical and sexuality; these two impostors have little relevance of character.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One’s truth, integrity, honor, and faith can never be conquered without permission; what you allow, can be good or evil determines your nature.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Life resembles a ten-thousand-piece puzzle; you can comprehend the view when missing a few pieces; but the image becomes distorted when several are forfeited or squandered.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Don’t over pour your glass of wisdom when preparing and aspiring for matters of the future. Leave room in the glass in order to allow joy to enter life today. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 2001

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Every so often, one should a challenge the impossible; which is simply a rehearsal for the less difficult.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We are not born good or evil, but throughout life are confronted with numerous circumstances in which we have a choice; prior history portrays future actions, but at the point of each decision, judgment rest solely in your hands.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We do not always have explanations to questions of human nature. Are those who revel in their own anguish and grief seeking attention, or has it become an ingrained slice of their personality? I think, both.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

To comprehend climate change, one must be educated and enlightened by the scientific evidence; those in disbelief follow the mantra of their tribe and cult for they lack resources to acquire an independent position.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One does not have to offer an opinion when asked or when advice is not solicited; never create an opinion just to provide advice when you lack knowledge. Even opinions have consequences.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Without term limits, some remain in office for decades; as a result, their power increases and they feel entitled, and ignore the people they represent; but do not be fooled that term limits would ultimately change representation, for it’s the ignorance of the populace who continue returning the same people to office. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 2001

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It’s easy to obtain safety with the majority or join the cult on false pretenses, one convinced themselves to believe; but the strongest among us stand on principle and wisdom; alone when necessary.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The greatest revenge you can obtain is to never reveal the harm and pain you feel to the one who injured you.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

It’s not because we fear to venture out of the norm into the unknown, it’s because we fear the unknown that we don’t venture out of the norm.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

In a democracy only protection, defense and freedom are promised; equality, wealth, and healthcare can be enhanced based upon the path you follow; some are bestowed a paved golden path at birth; however, the masses must create their own path through the dense jungle.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Music can alter one’s emotions in a positive or negative manner; use it wisely to soften pain or to invoke euphoria.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

All evil is not equal and therefore when we must choose between two, the lesser of two evils is selected.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

At birth and throughout our lives we live an unequal existence, but at death, we all become equal.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Women possess an inordinate power over men who after an act of intimacy feel deceived when they are subsequently rejected. Once intimate men wrongfully presume, they acquire permanent license.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

There are many ways to evaluate one’s character; observe one’s reaction when receiving praise to gain a greater understanding of their behavioral traits.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Those living under severe mental anguish have all but ceased from living. The justification for this state of mind determines the duration; if it’s due to the loss of a loved one, it’s likely to slowly dissolve, but if imminent death looms, the torment shall persist. Peace be with you.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When one is not mindful of their continued misconduct, they cannot discern the distinction between right and wrong; wisdom dictates silence is the best approach.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

You may remain a couple after betrayal and even establish a quality relationship, but the mental anguish never leaves, and your soul will haunt you forever.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Often, we fabricate the people we love to make loving them more palatable; the fictionalized version of them reduces the awareness of truth.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Reject the premise that one must follow established norms be they societal, religious or acts of nature; instead, wisdom teaches to do what is right.; what is entrenched is not necessarily fact, but practice.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Love, passion, and intimacy will not remain in the absence of friendship.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Do not always trust the spoken word because lies are easy when one cannot verify with facts; but the eyes can instantly nullify a thousand fallacious spoken words.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The intuitive always attempt to dissect a problem, person or other matters of nature and therefore are the nobles of wisdom.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One who constantly opens healed scars and wounds from the past, seeks sympathy.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Lovers only become soulmates when they evolve into one soul.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

From the moment we can fend for ourselves, striving to meet goals are an integral part of life; the type of goals changes throughout our life from striving to succeed to staying healthy and living comfortably in our later years.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

If you relocate to a different city seeking changes in your life, don’t expect any alteration unless you make changes in yourself.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Any plans, hopes and dreams for the future are always reliant upon the past; for wisdom, financial standing and experience determine your capacity to build and improve the future.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When you make a mistake for the first time, you should pardon yourself; the second time you make the same mistake, you should suffer the consequences for your stupidity folly; everyone makes mistakes, but only the wise learn from them.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Extremist groups rarely consider the endgame. They’re so emotionally entrenched in the crusade; they fail to realize their extreme conceptions precludes normalcy in their lives.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

One can best be judged by the life they live rather than the words they speak.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Remember when your heart is empty, don’t fill it with lies and deception.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Life flashes by before we can catch our breath; hold those you love close and every so often reach out and caressed their face with a smile.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Those who complain about being constrained in their job and life should ask themselves one simple question. Are you constrained by chains or in your own mind?

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

In a democracy when poverty and a declining middle-class exceed more than half the population, crime, revolution and death is on the horizon.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

If you cannot defeat your anger, then it will destroy you; when anger wins, you lose; no one befriends an angry person.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The wise always pursue unity and confront division; when unity has no hope, challenge division.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

A wise man shall never be conquered by a deceitful false prophet; but fools and simple minds shall revere the prophet as they would a deity.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Most people believe they have complete control of their free will regarding their actions and values. That is simply is a myth because our actions are substantially influenced by external factors. While some philosophers differ regarding the extent, we control free will, the vast majority believe external factors have a fundamental role. However, most do agree humans are in total control of their moral code, personal ethics and social values. RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 1983

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Improving your future requires study of the past; we learn traveling through life and especially from mistakes that provide lessons we should not repeat.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The conscience is the doorkeeper of our soul and moral code.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When a wife tells her husband, he sucks in bed, it’s undeniable he will obtain a second opinion.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The desires of man are frequently more influential than their rational thought.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Our abstract thoughts regarding matters of fact are rarely always absolute. Confidence in the truth often can be applied in varying degrees of acceptance. In other words, we can accept something as basically true with some lingering doubt.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

If you anticipate punishment and don’t receive it, you will have suffered nonetheless; however, expect punishment and you will suffer twice; once in anticipation and second, when it’s delivered.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

The first question you should always ask in an interview for a professional or managerial position is: Tell me everything you know about the organization? If the applicant lacks knowledge of the organization, they are unlikely to be inquisitive, interested in research, undertake due diligence, or simply lazy. Next.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

Devotion purchased, will disappear with the highest bidder.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

When we lack confidence, living life becomes more complex. However, the fear of failure most likely reduces our confidence and thus makes problem solving more difficult; when you accept failure as a learning experience, your confidence evolves.

– RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo)  Famous Quote

We don’t develop and acquire courage by taking the smoothest path each time. We develop it by facing misfortune and perilous conditions.

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The great philosophers of the ancient Greece classical period noted freedom and democracy are never lost in a single moment; instead, it disappears over time in small increments like losing pieces to a puzzle one at a time.; Destruction can only be prevented when the people rise in mass and fight to retain each piece.

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Besides death of a loved one, adversity enhances character and augments wisdom more than any other trial; adversity challenges our will, requires strategic thinking through arduous stretches on our journey.

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Acquiring great wealth does not eliminate one’s problems, concerns, and mental anguish, it only alters them.

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Those who ignore the rise of evil and depravity in a democracy, grant tacit license of acceptance and draw harm upon the vulnerable. When someone has altered our course without consent, we must engage to restore our path.

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Life provides ten times more wisdom and education than any academic institution.

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When your passions cannot be controlled by your conscience, then you become enslaved; you will lead a disruptive existence unable to traverse life’s daily decisions.

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We respect new friends more than the ones we know because we have yet to learn their flaws.

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Profound silence is the best alternative than nonsensical speech.

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Society creates societal values and mores for all to follow, at least in public; most however, deviate from these values and do so privately.

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There is no mistaking that in conjunction with the federal government, major corporations create a larger community of poor; instead of contributing some profits to people in need, they fill their own pockets beyond capacity.

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Truth never penetrates the cultists and tribal mind as the group worship of the charismatic idol, provides meaning to an empty life.

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On the first day of spring each year, we should toast mother nature as the greatest artist of all time.

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Men consistently treat love and fear in the same manner; to them, love and fear are equal if not the same.

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Tyranny knocks at the door when law is converted under the cloak of justice.

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The decision-making process is in constant conflict with our ability to think and resolve. We may reason, which can be faulty and contrived; we may feel passion which can distort and manipulate the ability to reflect; our conscience however, can never be distorted to suit our desires.

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Never allow your silence to be interpreted as a statement of consent.

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Reading, study, and education are all prerequisites, but applying what you’ve learned, is the true test of knowledge.

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A man who proclaims he fears nothing, has never tried to take candy from a baby.

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One must create a personal aura and environment of strength and dominance in order to avoid physical conflict.

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Be as patient as a tree and as persistent as weeds when approaching a problem.

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Some are constantly critical of the world around them, while others discern grandeur in the identical shoes.

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No beauty awaits the disheveled and squalid.

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Some are forever shackled by worship and cannot be easily rescued.

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Our moral code is constantly evolving; it’s impacted by the betrayers, masters of deceit, and the pseudo-truth tellers among us, even those we love.

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Action and malice that contradicts the conscience will result in irreparable damage and pain that could linger for years.

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While you can see the beauty in almost everything; there are others that see nothing but ugliness in the world. They disparage everything and one must wonder, do they find pleasure in condemnation.

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No one can penetrate silence; they can only interpret what is said. However, silence will create an abundance of speculative suppositions.

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She awakened your soul, but the soft whispers of wisdom led elsewhere. The perfect love, a true connection at a time not willing to wait.

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A wise man listens to gain knowledge and not to debate.

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Don’t ever let yourself become a fool to your loyalty.

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Seduction is a magical art form that women use to conquer men.

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Avoid constantly trying to adapt to situations, people, and other circumstances that have no value to your future. The phenomenon of always attempting to please and alter behavior is more likely to be unsuccessful then to enhance your life. Adapt by continuing to learn and improve your knowledge

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Silence is often the ultimate and most evident lie.

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Being a great leader requires several attributes. Leadership includes both rewarding and difficult attributes. You must possess the strength to make tough decisions that may isolate you for a period. And yet, have empathy and understanding of others. You must be able to listen to alternatives regarding your decisions and seriously consider them. If you practice from both a standpoint of strength and compassion, people may not always agree with your decisions, but they will respect you.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Growth is a perpetual process that continues throughout our lives. And challenging ourselves is the foundation upon which growth is enhanced.

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People that complain often are usually trying to get attention. The stems from the fact they’re displeased with their accomplishments and think the lack of same is the fault of others.

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Disassociate with people that criticize you. Avoid them at all costs and act indifferent in their presence. At some point they may ask you what’s wrong, and you need to speak the truth.

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I evaluate friendship based on never uttering secret words I’ve spoken.

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The best captains endure the most turbulence and greatest storms.

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When struggling through a relationship crisis, every other aspect of your life becomes a battle.

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Each time our heart is broken, we should learn a lesson and not repeat the same mistakes. However, often there is nothing we could have done to save the relationship.

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Intuition is like a compass that guides your decision-making process when answers are not readily available.

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Courageous people begin the journey knowing only the destination.

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Fake people can be silenced with truth.

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No one is coming to save you. You’re the only one left for this assignment.

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There are seven things you can never get back. 1. Words after they have been spoken. 2. A stone after it has been thrown. 3. A moment or occasion after it has passed. 4. A person after they have passed. 5. Time once it has passed. 6. Betrayal after it has transpired. 7. A lie after it has been spoken.

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Every so often deliberately participate in inappropriate behavior, but don’t tell anyone. In this way, your public persona shall remain intact.

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Do not humiliate, disrespect or embarrass; always speak with a soft tongue when holding your ground. To be loud, rude and obnoxious will negate the argument and advantage. And truth is always mandatory.

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If your life were a movie, would you pay to watch it?

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Your morality is determined by your conscience and mine is determined by my conscience.

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For the most part, people live their normal lives. Except when at parties, in a group or away from home, then a different person emerges.

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When you continually must question the love you have, you need to start looking for the love you want.

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I’ve created a new morality. Not one based on societal values and mores but instead on my own conscience. We should not let others determine our moral values nor accept their ridicule. Full stop.

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Only wisdom can teach us when it’s best to say nothing.

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When someone is not present to defend themselves don’t participate in a smearing campaign because you give credence to their cowardly actions.

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Your presence has no meaning when your absence doesn’t alter their life.

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Progress does not come from following the norms, but instead by breaking them. What is normal remains the same and therefore we must depart from the past.

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She was daydreaming out the kitchen window into the backyard. And wondered what it would feel like being naked on the swing. That night, with everyone in bed, she removed her nightgown and walked across the backyard to the swing. She felt exhilaration because she wasn’t supposed to be there.

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If you want to boost your confidence, do something even though you’re scared.

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Be careful not to fall in love with the fantasy you imagined instead of what’s standing before you.

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Moments when you realize your heart is empty and the one who could fill it, never will.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

She taught me that without trust, love could never exist.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

No one has gone through life without acquiring scars and bruises. Some wounds are hidden inside us and only we can feel. They are badges of our day-to-day struggle to learn and survive. RJ Intindola – 1981

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There are two types of scars; those that are visible and those that are not. Both indicate that you been hurt but only the external scars will show if you been healed. No one can see the scars inside us or if our injury still lingers.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

He who tells the truth will lose friends. A Wise Man

– A Wise Man RJI  Famous Quote

You may continue to stay together after betrayal, and the scar may heal and condense, but will never totally disappeared.

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Some people settle for what they’re given instead of working hard for what they want.

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Don’t wait until regrets are your only option, make the changes and act before it’s too late.

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The fear of failure has killed many of hopes and dreams.

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People who don’t keep promises, can’t be trusted.

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Life without a plan is a life without expectations.

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We gain knowledge by going through life, education, reading and other learning techniques. And with this knowledge we are now able to imagine.

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True friendship is like the sun that you can't always see in the darkness of night, but you know will return to brighten your day.

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Stare your fears down and they will eventually disappear.

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The only reason that evil exists is to challenge the good among us to defeated it.

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A wise man waits until everyone else has spoken.

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Only love can turn the darkest storm into the brightest day.

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The past is behind you and there is nothing you can do to change it. However, you are in total control of your future.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Small minded people rarely have any ideas, just a litany of complaints.

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People who create change, change the future for others. Therefore, if you remain idle, the future will control how you change.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

If you’re the problem, then moving to a new town to start a new life is not going to work.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong struggle.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

What I’ve learned is not to pay much attention to those that say, “Money will not make you happy.” To them, I answer, it’s certainly a good place to start. And not having it can make you sad.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Everybody loves and desires success, but they dislike and are envious of successful people.

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Every human being on earth has two things in common. Death and a broken heart.

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Love is often described as a fruit you can just reach out with your hand and pluck. However, one should beware, that although glowing in color, the fruit is often tainted or rotten.

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Beware of people that envy you.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Trust me, the harder you work the better luck you have.

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When in love, the heart will deflect any sense of reasoning offered by the brain.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Sometimes our heart goes rogue and makes decisions without even telling us or letting us know in advance.

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Hate is easy. Kind is a mindset.

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If we do not have justice for the rule of law, then society shall be broken.

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Beauty is seen through the eyes, but beautiful people are only known through your heart.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Quit telling us to forget the past and never look back. We learned from the past, gained wisdom from the past that we apply every day in the process of living. If we forget the past, we’ll forget who we are since that’s where we came from.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

If you give your word to someone, keep it.

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When beset with doubt in troubled times, and those about you will understand if you come unglued, stay the ground and face the challenge. Fore when you stand alone to confront life's highest mountains, the next shall be easier to climb.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

When you succeed everybody wants to party with you. When you fail, just buy a bottle of scotch to take home.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

You can always tell the character of a person, by what they say about others who are not present.

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When someone has broken the trust you bestowed in them, their likely to do it again. Be wary before speaking in front of them on any matter you don’t want to be repeated.

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When someone does not respond, not responding is their response.

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In sports, it is easier to win a championship than to remain a champion in subsequent seasons. And the same is true in life. Once you reach the top, it is more difficult to stay on top. Because, when you become the best in sports, and in life, everyone expects more from you and they want to take you down.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

We tend to remember our mistakes more than other actions because they leave us feeling uncomfortable. And because we don’t like feeling that way, we are less likely to repeat our mistakes. The same can also be said for taking chances and putting aside our fears.

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We’ve all had that feeling after final exams were completed, and we whispered to ourselves, “thank God it’s over.” It’s not over as you will learn in life you must keep moving forward to succeed. And if you don’t, guess what; it’s over.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

When you have a choice between quantity or quality, always choose quality; except when it comes to money.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

If you love freedom, then you’re going to have to pay for it. Not only by paying taxes but by making the commitment to live by the principles that is essential for freedom to survive. That includes respecting the rule of law and if you have set that aside for political reasons, then you are a threat to our democracy and our freedoms.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

I must admit that I am always perplexed when reading quotes and other writings that true love should be unconditional. Well, how about betrayal? Shouldn’t that be a condition? It is for me and should be for you.

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Love is friendship set in a blaze of fire.

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Never and Always Never take advantage of someone who loves you Never avoid someone who needs you Never betray anyone who has trust in you Never forget the people that always remember you Never speak ill of a person who is not present Never support something you know is wrong or unethical Always speak to your parents on their birthday and anniversary Always defend those who cannot defend themselves Always forgive those you love who have made mistakes Always give something to those less fortunate than you Always remember to look back at those who helped you succeed Always call your parents and siblings on New Year’s Eve. R.J. Intindola- 1985

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Leaders typically don’t follow the crowd, that is unless they’re trying to escape a burning building.

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People would lie less if they could only remember how difficult it is to live with the lie. There is one exception – narcissistic people live in a lie and therefore have no conscious of guilt regarding the consequences of their dishonest demeanor.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

No one lives out the words they preach or the advice they offer. This does not mean they don’t believe in the words they’ve written or spoken but instead are subject to life’s necessary standard deviations.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

People that are hiding something deep within themselves, will live a life cloaked in total anxiety.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

When I hear a certain song playing in the background, I think of you and a vision of your face, pervades my soul. When the second song plays, your sweet fragrance fills the air around me. The third song and her gentle hand caressing my face tingles my body covered with goosebumps. At the fourth song, I gently glide to the radio and turn it off. There’s no sense roaming in the darkened marred past.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

The silence of many is deafening. Especially when our country is under attack by those who challenge the moral values of our Constitution.

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Be the person people remember because you made them feel special.

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Don’t be afraid to burn a bridge you never want to cross again.

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Sometimes defining friendship can be simple. If your heart still aches after someone has passed, then you were a true friend. They may have physically left this world, but they still walk among us in our hearts.

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How many times have we encountered a person that states, “can I ask a question,” and proceeds to ask the question before you can respond. In these cases, they’ve given us a choice and then take it away. What they’re really doing here, is making a statement and not asking you to decide.

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Some doors slammed in your face need to be glued and nailed shut so they can never be reopened.

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Some friends are more significant and important than other friends. A special friend can often change your life for the better. You will know when this special person enters your life because of the respect you have for them. They will never lie or set you aside for someone or something else. You will have undying trust in this person that any words spoken will never find another ear. They always returned calls at the earliest possible time. They will check in often to see what’s going on in your life and just talk. Your accomplishments will be applauded with praise and losses will never be repeated. This friend has you melted within their heart as you do theirs. When you find such a person be sure to return the love and understand they have gifted you and your life.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

When I felt cornered in my life and wrought with crisis and turmoil, I wondered why friends stayed silent.

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This expression was created and expanded over numerous years. And possibly it will continue to be expanded. You will notice that the Internet has altered how the expression is written. I Wrote the first two lines in 1974. There are two experiences that you can never get back. First, words after they had been uttered. And second, a stone after it has been thrown. 1974 I added a third experience in 1980 after personal dramatic circumstances in my life. As a result, the expression was changed as written below. There are three experiences that you can never get back. One, words after they have been spoken. Two, a stone after it has been thrown. Three, a moment or after it has passed In January 1984, my father died, and I added a fourth item. which was stated in a different manner to my brother. Later that same year, I added a fifth experience, related to my brother who had cancer. Remember to spend time with those you love. There are five experiences that you can never get back. One, words after they have been spoken. Two, a stone after it has been thrown. Three, a moment or occasion after it has passed. Four, a person after they have passed. Five, time once it has passed. The final two experiences were added twelve years later in 1996. They are rarely included in the various depictions I have seen on the Internet. The only logic I can conclude for their lack of inclusion, is that I stopped posting to inspirational and poetic websites for several years.. Thus, the final or I should say current construction is noted below. There are seven things you can never get back. 1. Words after they have been spoken. 2. A stone after it has been thrown. 3. A moment or occasion after it has passed. 4. A person after they have passed. 5. Time once it has passed. 6. Betrayal after it has transpired. 7. A lie after it has been spoken. RJ Intindola ―

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No one has gone through life without acquiring scars and bruises. These wounds are hidden inside us and only we can feel. They are badges of our day-to-day struggle to learn and survive.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Before deciding on a decision, determine how well you are willing to live with it.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

If you're alone, I'll be your shadow. If you want to cry, I'll be your shoulder. If you want a hug, I'll be your pillow. If you feel pain, I’ll be your aspirin. If you are unhappy, I'll be your smile. If you are ill, I’ll be your prescription. But anytime you need a friend, I'll just be me.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Life is a test, make sure you study for it.

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If you think it can’t be done, please don’t interfere or interrupt the rest of us trying to do it.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

If you ask for advice, listen, instead of interrupting and debating why it’s wrong.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

He who wears the emotional and physical scars of life should do so with honor and integrity.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Fate controls who walks into your life, but you decide who leaves, stays, and who you refuse to let go. Who stays depends on the bindings between you.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

When today is no different than yesterday and you haven’t taken any action to improve your tomorrow, then all your days continue to be yesterdays

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

If someone makes a mistake and you still want them in your life, then forgive them.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

Friendship is rooted in the protection of deep dark secrets.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

My Broken Pieces A few weeks back, a longtime friend asked if I would meet her for lunch to discuss a new job offer. We sat in the restaurant for forty-five minutes discussing her new job opportunity when her face grew solemn. She sighed, staring down into her plate. I asked, “is everything all right,” knowing she did not ask me to meet to discuss a job offer. She said, “everything is fine, but I cannot get your story or quote about the broken pieces out of my mind.” She took a deep breath raised her head and, in half whisper, said, “it really described the broken pieces in my marriage? I answered, “when promises, borders and commitment are broken, and especially betrayal, the relationship may be repaired but never return to what it once was or could have been.” Before she left, she thanked me for giving her a copy. I refer to the story, as “The Broken Vase.” The Broken Vase Love and marriage are often broken by betrayal, lies and unkept promises. Betrayal is the ultimate form of deceit and deception. It reminded me of something I wrote many years ago about a vase that was knocked off the shelf and broken into many pieces. For a moment you’re not sure what to do but then you decide to try and repair it. Imagine trying to pick up the pieces of your life, left behind in the wake of betrayal. You must be methodical and cautious because your path is covered with egg shells. You realize it may not be the same as it once was, but would vase be good enough to keep. After all, you’ve had it for thirty years. When you believe all the pieces have been collected and placed on the table, you do one last search for the smallest pieces you may have missed. You find two small pieces, place them on the table and stare down at the broken pieces of something you cherished and was beautiful. Something so precious you often proudly displayed it to friends Over a period of three weeks, you managed to glue the vase back together. You slowly turn it around on the table and realize it is an archaic reproduction of its original form. There are holes in it created by pieces you did not find and never will. Like the pieces missing from your relationship. Held together by history and commitment but still broken. And severely damaged. The vase will never hold flowers again because it cannot hold water. And like your relationship, it has become fragile as you watch a piece fall off the vase when you lifted off the table. And when you think about the broken pieces collected from your relationship, you know that will also never be the same. As you held up the beautiful vase to show people it’s beauty, that now is simply a collection of glued pieces that resembles your relationship. You can no longer showcase your marriage. Only because of its history you place the vase back on the self, but it seems out of place and detracts from the ambience around it. After a few weeks you take the vase to your home office and place it on a shelf. A few weeks later, you sadly change the location to the closet. And like your relationship it has been moved to a different place. A dark place. When people say to you, you and your wife seem to get along very well. You think about showing them the vase. All that remains of the relationship is held together by glue. After several years you are still seeking out the missing pieces from your heart knowing deep inside you will never find. There’s only one way to get them back and that is to leave. But leaving will also mean breaking more pieces. Those are your two choices. If you leave, you will get back some of the pieces you lost but you would lose others by virtue of leaving.

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When a friend is going through a difficult stormy time in their life, try to be the rainbow that makes them smile.

– RJ Intindola  Famous Quote

In the epic battle between the brain and the heart, the heart usually wins.

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Relationships sometimes break like a falling vase into fifty pieces. And when you glue the vase back together, you realize it has lost the luster and pristine appearance that will never return. Now you have two choices. Keep it as it is or throw it away.

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Your legacy among family and friends shall resemble a blank page while you remain silent when others threaten our constitutional values.

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An empty heart eats lies.

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When our hearts are empty even deception can fill them.

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Don’t turn the truth into a lie using self-fulfilling prophecies. RJ Intindola

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In the end, your will and heart will determine the portrait of your life.

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